They say that everything starts with a single step, a decision or just a simple change of mind. That is true in every connotation and definition of the saying, nothing happens without that first step. Most people go through their 20’s clueless about a lot of things that soon haunt them in their next 2 decades, yet the 20’s are the building phase of everyone’s life, they are that first step you have to take to a particular direction or path that soon becomes your life and ultimately your destiny and legacy . Think about it, each year that you’re in your 20’s filled with energy, ideas, life, creativity and if you’ve began taking your spiritual journey to enlightenment and achieving the highest level of self that you are destined to be, each year the path either gets more clearer or you develop a certain aspect of your life that contributes to your overall well-being as a young adult.
On my personal experience with my 20’s, I find each year very different than the preceding one, thus the reference and difference between who I was, who I am and who I’m becoming is always and is being constantly redefined and changed to correspond with past interpersonal habitual thoughts, beliefs and ideas about the person I see myself to be. Dreams, goals and personal yardsticks soon take on a different shape and dimension with each year that you add to your 20’s. Through this process here’s a few things that I’ve learnt, especially in the year 23.
- It’s OK not to have money.
– This is a very tricky aspect to master because as a 20 something you’re constantly being made to feel, think and believe that money is the ultimate measurement and source of happiness. It’s OK not to have money at certain periods because: It allows you to see through the illusion of money, when you don’t depend on money to validate your happiness. Being ‘broke’ is actually a good thing because it teaches you how to be resourceful and find new ways of generating money. Lastly, its OK not to have money because in your 20’s the last thing you need is a wrong fixation on the value of life and what’s important.
- You’re Greater than you think.
– Usually when you say this to people, it comes across as arrogant and overly confident BUT the truth is YOU are Greater than you think. What you think of yourself in your 20’s and the rest of your life shouldn’t be based on others peoples opinions and ideas. As human beings we automatically tend to degrade others just so we can feel good about ourselves. Basing your self image on other peoples opinion is a complex that you must learn to deviate or de-attach from because it supports the shortcomings of others that you soon naturally use as a reference to and for yourself. “You strengthen what you see in others” is a saying that every 20’s should keep in mind every time someone says something good or bad about them and vice versa.
- Make more mistakes
– Parents and elder people don’t really agree with this one, matter of fact we are forever told to avoid mistakes. Reflecting back on the value of mistakes leaves one point unquestioned, mistakes help us grow. The only time we ever really learn is when we voluntary put ourselves in learning mode with the intention of bettering ourselves or a certain aspect of our lives. The beauty that comes with making more mistakes is that you’re constantly challenged by situations, people and your own thoughts to rise above the set backs that mistakes usually result into. Set backs are a springboard for Come backs. The more mistakes you make, the better and faster you learn, the greater the value and lessons you grasp and grow from as a person.
- Don’t run away from yourself.
– Out of honesty I think that this is one of the hardest things to do in your 20’s. Because at that stage of your life you have so much to offer, time, energy, friends, recreation and all that makes the 20’s exciting. Out of fairness, I’ll admit that a lot of us 20 somethings find it very hard to face ourselves and thus we spend most of our time in groups or behind the screen or changing and jumping from one relationship to another in search of a place to hide from ourselves. The idea of facing oneself does not appeal enticing in the eyes and ears of a 20 something, yet balance is crucial because the more we run away from ourselves the harder it becomes to appreciate the value of having a social life which is what most 20 somethings end up confusing for a personal life. The knowledge of oneself and the ability to stay with yourself without needing the company of others as a distraction is of key vitality and significance to your personal growth. If there is balance, good communication, understanding and peace within you, that makes it a whole lot easier to make connections with other people because it’s supported by a healthy personal relationship with oneself and thus friction in the social life is close to impossible.
- Invest in Moments and Memories Not Possessions
– Throughout my entire life I have never heard of any possession that has brought happiness to a person. Let me break it down, after a week of purchasing that long awaited and desired car, shoe, house, clothing item or gadget you soon realize that there’s a newer, better and more expensive one and then the cycle of trying to satisfy and feed the ego begins all over again, you want the latest of what you thought you couldn’t live without. What was thee best thing to have last week is now old and irrelevant, it did make you happy for a few days or months but that happiness didn’t last, WHY? Real and lasting satisfaction is found in the things that we cannot interpret with our senses, in the things that we cannot buy or put monetary value on, real satisfaction and happiness is heartfelt. It takes a moment of silence while starring at a very breathtaking view of a mountain in a foreign country or jumping off a plane at 3000 feet above ground. Such moments are usually where we discover more about life, ourselves and the process of being human. Invest in creating those moment because they become unforgettable memories that will always stay with you even after that possession has lost value or better yet has been thrown in the garbage bag.
- Celebrate the Process more than the Outcome.
– Upon my completion of my qualification, on graduation day I was so excited and happy that I had finally gotten to that point. I mean, what more would a hard working young individual like me want right? The next day I woke up and realized that there was no fun in being ‘qualified’, yes its an achievement worth being proud of but my issue was that I suddenly felt like I wasn’t being challenged anymore. I realized that I actually enjoyed the non stop pressure, deadlines, shoots, traveling and fun that came with the process of becoming a qualified Film and Television Producer. I realized that the process of becoming was actually more fun and challenging than the outcome. It sounds a bit crazy but when you think about the very essence of growth as a process regardless of where you relate it to, growth is the only time that what was becomes what is and in that process a complete transformation takes place. The journey matters more than the destination because the journey determines the destination.
- Find Your own Truth
– What is the Truth? That question cannot be easily answered yet the answer is and has always been inside of each and everyone and everything that exists; has ever existed and shall exists on the face of planet Earth. We live in a very Information Saturated Age and that has made it even more confusing for most people to really know the difference between truth and lie, fact and fiction, finding the truth on its own has become a matter of study. One fact will always remain whether you believe in it or not, we are more than just physical beings who are here to work and then die living our kids to suffer and live the same fate, No, we are spiritual beings at our highest and truthful form. Because we are made and encrypted in the blueprint of the Creator, the Universe and Nature we too are the key to our own truth and what we thereafter see and believe as to be the truth. Although, finding the truth is preceded by not running away from yourself, when you have faced yourself and all that creates what you refer to as ‘I’. The truth is within ourselves, it’s a huge part of why we exist on this earth. Find and give yourself enough time to learn and know about yourself, give yourself the opportunity to know yourself. The person who has mastered their life through knowledge of self has mastered the world because that’s where real truth and power come from. The truth is inside you, find it!
- Take some time off each day to Breathe
– Learn the power of breathing and its relationship with your energy source. The mind is
intimately connected with your breathing. For example, when the mind is agitated, your
breathing becomes quick and shallow. When you are relaxed and focused, your breathing
is deep and calm. By practicing deep, abdominal breathing, you will develop a calm,
serene demeanor that will remain cool in the hottest of circumstances. Remember the
rule of the Eastern mountain men: “to breathe properly is to live properly.”
- Explore and Experience
– A life of adventure is far more fulfilling than any other life. In your 20’s you probably have more energy than you’ll ever have in all of your life stages and phases combined. Use that energy to explore the world around you, and this does not just only refer to traveling. When you’re exploring, you are fundamentally and by definition experiencing different things usually for the first time. Give yourself more WOW moments whether it be from reading a new book, playing a new sport, joining a new youth development group, creating something whether its art or a song or just like me, write and share your life lessons with others. This mentality of exploring is engraved within us but we lose it as we grow older because we are convinced that such a mentality will get us nowhere. Screw the rules, go out there and throw yourself in the deep end of a new and unknown experience, truth is we always learn a little more about ourselves in unfamiliar, unknown and strange situations. Explore and Experience the thrills that come with being a 20 something.
- Dont rush to have it all figured out.
– It sounds like a bad idea because our minds naturally feel inclined and compelled to try and have it all figured out but the ironic and funny truth is that you cannot and probably will never get to figure it all out. Throw that idea out of the window because it’s a very strong source of depression and stress. When you focus on figuring it all out you lose sight of the value behind the unknown. Learn to acknowledge and embrace the surprises, lessons, ups, downs, loses, wins, joy, pain and tribulations that come with being young. The idea of having it all figured out is based on a wrong fixation about life, that it’s suppose to be all sunlight, bunnies and candy. That too is an idea that fully deserves to be thrown out the window because it is through not having it all figured out that life in the 20’s becomes an unforgettable adventure that lays a very strong foundation for the rest of your life.
The average 20 something almost gets over the 20’s without paying attention to life hacks of this nature until they reach the stage at which they would have been better prepared for should they have dedicated at least a fraction of their enormous free time and energy that comes with being a 20 something especially in our now information saturated and fast paced age. With the time and energy one dedicates into their own development and conquest to mastering their mind which eventually becomes a springboard at which the entire world could be mastered, a lot can be brought into light and thus helping each individual to make and live their way through the world with less friction and resistance.